How to select a Wedding Officiant:
- Select an officiant who displays a professional image and character; via their website, phone conversations, and business practice - A wedding minister must manage their service professionally. This should bring a sense of comfort to you; knowing your minister won't be late, messy in image, disorganized in character, and fumbling in the presentation (it happens more then you realize). Rather, you want to seek out an officiant that displays creativity and style, is sound in speech and presentation skills, and is sharp in image and professional in character. For example, a website should be a reflection of the style and character of a minister. It should demonstrate the very nature of the ministers personality.
- Selecting an officiant based on price - selecting a officiant around price can be a scary decision. Your ceremony is the center piece to your wedding. Everyone will be focused directly at the couple and the minister. Seeking a minister on price alone can be the difference between a delivered ceremony that is classy and one that is not. Don't be stuck with a ceremony that you will remember for all the wrong reasons. Be wise when selecting your officiant. Often, you do get what you pay for. The decision on who will be your minister is an important decision and should be handled with such importance.
- Select an officiant who demonstrates a code of ethics and has integrity - This will provide for a better working relationship before, during, and after your wedding. You want to feel comfortable and confident in your officiant. Honesty and integrity is a key value in any relationship and its no different in the relationship between you and the minister who is going to marry you. You can take comfort in the fact that actions such as preparing your ceremony with effort and thought, respecting your individuality, and handling your ceremony with care are standards that shouldn't be consider optional. Quality begans with integrity.
- Selecting an officiant who is upfront with you - With the internet and this information driven world of the web, their is no reason something as important like cost isn't included on a website. You shouldn't have to go out of your way to ask for pricing. It should be straight forward and upfront. No hidden fees or misc. fees. You should be allowed to use the website to research all the information necessary to make a sound pre-decision before ever making a call. Why wouldn't a minister be upfront in regards to pricing? The internet is a great resource and a minister should provide courtesy to the couple. The preperation of a wedding takes effort and energy so giving the couple all the necessary information upfront is being respectful to their needs.
- Selecting an officiant based on some added symbol of recognition on their website - I'm going to be upfront and honest with you...most of these associations that issue these symbols are simply a "pay to be recognized" membership. Don't be mis-lead by thinking this symbol (they merely paid for) makes them more qualified. It doesn't! A minister pays money and then is given some "official looking" emblem to add to their website. It doesn't make them better or worse. I know, it looks official but honestly it is merely pay base. There are some associations that have a couple generic rules or standards but my experience has found that most only require that you send them money. Now, there are those who chose this option and they are pretty wonderful people, but don't make a decision based on the idea that some paid association makes them more qualified. Secondly, for your information there are some companies who simply charge you a fee and you are ordained. No special training, no indepth study program, or detail instruction. A person simply pays a fee to one of these organizations and they define that person as ordained. Again, if a person went this route, it doesn't make them unqualified. I just want to educate you on the truths. There are some good officiants out there who have taken this route and are great wedding officiants. I personally went through a 17 class study program for my ordination, a church board review, plus an additional 9 courses in relationship and marriage counseling. Also, my university studies, 10 years in ministry as a leader and teacher and over 15 years of public speaking experience.
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